The Course

Relationships have a course. The frustrating part is when the end of the course seems premature. Anyone who has been dumped will know this. The potential of what you thought should happen, is final and must be faced. These are cases when one person acts without the other, not being on the same page, and there is nothing you can do to plead your case.

I feel this not only in my marriage, but in relationships that have come since. There is a point when I just don't feel comfortable, myself, or even happy. I ask "Is this relationship making me unhappy?"

It's a western idea that you should only do what makes you happy. Some things are hard and worth fighting for. But some, I have to face, must be let go. It's sad, but seems to be the only way. When the tools in the belt of useful items to assist in these situations, is empty, what else is there to do?

When I have arguments with friends, I know it is okay because afterwards because we will both have a sense of relief. It seems healthy. But to continue past this point, still feeling insecure about things, seems like a bad idea. I recognize now when I'm not being myself with someone, I feel fake and like an actor. It is insecurity with that person, I recognize it now. And though I would love to be happy all the time, but this feeling is not a good one.

When is something worth fighting for? How hard and how long?